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Guidance for Individuals Having an Affair

"At the heart of an affair, you will often find a longing and a yearning for an emotional connection, for novelty, for freedom, for autonomy, for sexual intensity, a wish to recapture lost parts of ourselves or an attempt to bring back vitality..." - Esther Perel

"How did I get here? I never thought I'd..." The secrecy of your affair is isolating. The only two in your love nest are you and your affair partner. Being in your affair is both a relief and a stressor. Individuals having an affair often feel highly stressed and anxious, as the tension of living dual existences takes a physical toll. On the one hand you feel guilt, fear, and confusion; on the other you feel exhilarated, free, and alive in a way you haven't in a long time.

You have found yourself in an extramarital relationship for reasons unique to you. Some reasons you're aware of, and others you may be unclear about. 

Our work together will provide a confidential and safe space to explore all aspects of your affair experience. Your deepest desires, your boundaries, your identity. Sessions are judgment-free;  you'll find an empathy that will help you understand your most authentic self and discern how to forge ahead.

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